Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Dating Tool: Confidence 101

Nobody said dating would be easy, but Hollywood sure likes to paint it that way, doesn't it? "There's someone for everyone," they say. Maybe that ought to translate to, "There's someone for everyone.as long as you're a muscled pretty boy with washboard abs, and at least 6 feet tall."

So how does one get by this unsettling dating stipulation? Are we actually to believe that love will find us when we're not looking? I think people who say that are normally in happy relationships when they say it. Can we "buy" outer beauty from an online store to match our own inner beauty? Somebody is buying pheromones and weight-loss pills and liposuction and facial restructuring. Hell, now people even get plastic surgery to make them look like a celebrity.

Huh??? And you know what? I bet these things work for people.

As long as it can build the confidence up in someone, it also strengthens the attraction. So how can we build up that confidence without spending tons of money to people who know how the game works? Sounds like a question for the shrink. I suppose its all part of why I started up a matchmaking service with a friend of mine in Los Angeles. It can be so frustrating out there.

And being "alone" can only make your work day more stressful, it seems. So if I had someone to do the dirty work for me, get me the dating connections, counsel me on why I might not be getting that second date, maybe my frustration level would decrease. So I went into the business, pretty much as a means to find out what can be done to find the perfect one. OK, so nobody's perfect, but at least maybe I can find a decent one who happens to have similar ethics as myself. Oh, and a killer sense of humor is mandatory. But looking around, nobody was going to help me, a fact that made me feel even more alone! So I had to do it myself.

Such is life, right? Part of it might be that I feel a need to always be in control of my own destiny.

As long as I am actively pursuing something, I am a success. Yea, that sounds right! So I joined forced with my cohort and we started Let's Meet Here. Now I'm gonna' find the one, right? Wrong! As it seems unethical to date my own clients (damn, I knew I'd run into some roadblock!) I figured at least pass on any information I can gather to those who need it (and baby, we all need it!). Granted, I am learning about all this stuff now. It seems every date and every relationship is completely unique. There is no list of do's and don'ts that applies.

But I do know that self confidence is attractive and beneficial to everyone.


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