Staring Down a Bully Overheard at Joe's Cigar Bar: "Did I give you my card? Come over here!" It was said by a guy with a baseball cap pulled over his forehead. He was talking to Lea, the young lady who works the counter. I held my breath, watching Lea. She looked at him, turned around, and walked the other way. Good for her. There are bullies everywhere. Most of them, like this guy, begin by taking advantage of your civility. They want to surprise or press you into doing something you don't want to do. A small thing, but a start. If you let them continue, they will abuse you in every way they possibly can. And the longer you put up with it, the more difficult it will be to break free of their power. The best time to beat a bully back is the very first time he says something that makes you feel uncomfortable. Lea's response -- turning her back and walking away -- was a good one. But most bullies will see it as a retreat and will come back at you again. That's what this guy did. The next time Lea came near him to fill his drink, he reached over the counter and grabbed her hand. "You walked away from me," he said. Lea was scared. She didn't know what to do. She stood there, embarrassed. "Take your hands off her," I said. The bar was as quiet as a John Hancock commercial. "Are you talking to me?" I walked over and gripped the hand that was on Lea's. He pulled it away. "Don't touch me!" he said. I stared at him for a few seconds, smiled, and went back to my chair. He was well mannered after that. When a bully confronts you, you don't have to play the tough guy, like I did. Psychologists say it is usually enough to say something simple and deliberate. The trouble is that when you are in such a situation, it is hard to think of anything. So I'll give you something you can memorize and use the next time this happens to you. Say, "Why are you trying to bully me?" And then, regardless of how he answers -- even if he apologizes -- shake your head derisively, turn your back, and walk away. It will show him that you are not an easy target. He'll leave you alone and move on to his next victim. In today's issue, Rich Schefren talks about doing what you love without sacrificing money. And I talk about: - Wealthy: The stupid human tricks business model
- Healthy: Why I take folic acid
- Wise: Sage words from a master copywriter
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How many people are locked into a job they can't stand, only because they get a steady paycheck and benefits? I'm willing to bet there are quite a few. You don't have to be one of them. The career you chose obviously once sparked an interest in you ... even if it was only because you deemed it a profitable venture. The profit potential of any career is, of course, important. But how you arrive at those profits is up to you. For example, I love Internet marketing. I love everything about it -- the strategies, the tactics, the implementation. Everything. Plus, I've had a successful track record of launching and running new businesses. On top of that, I'm constantly searching for new and better ways to grow a business. So when I made the decision to develop a business that would give me the autonomy to spend more time with my family and friends, I went with the one thing I knew I could "hang my hat on" and pursue with a passion -- helping others do the same. Needless to say, it was the right choice. I urge you to find those same strengths and passions in yourself. Then seek out ways to build a business around them. Remember, success is not just about the numbers. It's not all about how much you can cut from your company's expenses or how fat your bank account grows over time. Think about the people behind non-profit organizations. They usually work for less money than their corporate peers, so you know they have to love what they're doing. They might have a trait you don't yet possess ... the ability to define their success by how much they get to follow their passions and realize their dreams. How fulfilled are you? Do you dread going to work every day? Do you find yourself wanting to call in sick because you can't stand thinking about the work you have to do? If so, you have to make passion part of your routine. That means taking command of your future by starting your own business. I'm not saying you'll be able to meet every task associated with being an entrepreneur with enthusiasm. You may not like packaging and shipping or printing out invoices, for example. It may be a pain to source service providers. But you can come into work every day and be excited about what you're about to accomplish. And because you're the one in charge, you'll be able to delegate most of the tasks that weigh you down and focus your attention and time on those that give you satisfaction. By transmitting your enthusiasm to your employees, you will make that the driving force behind your company's success. You'll also be able to create an ideal work environment -- not only for your employees but for yourself. That might mean working on a "nonstandard" work schedule. Maybe from 5:00 p.m. to 1:00 in the morning so you can spend time with your young children during the day. Or working from 5:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. so you can pursue other interests in the afternoon and evening. Which brings me to another question ... Is there something you've been wanting to do that's been impossible because of your current job and work schedule? Let's say there's a cause you care deeply about -- and you'd like to actively support it. As the owner of your own business, you could use some of the time you've freed up with your "nonstandard" work schedule to do some volunteering. Or you could have your business sponsor a charitable event. That way, you'd not only be earning your living by doing something you love ... you'd be giving to others at the same time. When you find ways to love what you do, success -- yours and that of the people around you -- will come naturally. When you love the work you do, you'll have a positive attitude. That will help you accomplish more in every aspect of your life. And don't be afraid to show off your passion. Because your energy and enthusiasm will inspire everyone around you to fuel their own success. So let me ask you this again: Are you passionate about what you do? Or just passionate about the money you make? What you work hard for should be something you believe in -- something that will create a better life for you and your family. Maybe even the world. It that doesn't describe what you're doing now ... it's time to make a change. P.S. Ready to match your passion with a profitable business? At Early to Rise's upcoming Info-Marketing Bootcamp, I'll show you how to get the most out of your life and career, along with plenty of practical techniques for starting and growing your own online business. I'll be joined by a dozen experts in social media, search engine marketing, copywriting, and more. Find out more about Bootcamp here. ----------------------------------------------Highly Recommended --------------------------------------------------- Increase Your Wealth by Managing Risk Like the Pros. You can't take all the risk out of investing. But you can take much of it away. More important, you can remove its worst aspects -- those that cause fear and result in bad investment decisions. ETR'S own Charles Newcastle has developed a quick and simple four-step "risk removal" system that could bring you 132%+ gains in a matter of weeks. Read more... --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- More wealth, health, and wisdom from Masterson ... Sometimes it pays to know a bit of history. Listen to this: The first video on YouTube was posted in April 2005. Since then, YouTube has grown exponentially. These days, 20 hours of video are being uploaded every minute. In other words, if the major networks (NBC, CBS, and ABC) broadcast 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, for 60 years, they wouldn't put out as much content as YouTube puts up in 60 days. That growth has created a great deal of interest in social media from the business community. Just about everybody and his brother are looking to capitalize on the opportunity. But I am not rushing forward. I am going to sit back and observe. If I see something I like, I'll move in. Social media may well have applications for my business. But I'm almost positive they will never be primary benefits. I can see these sites for testimonials and interviews. But I can't see them as a mainstream technique for selling products to new customers. And that, as they say, is where the rubber meets the road. When my homocysteine levels were a bit high a few years ago, Dr. Sears recommended folic acid to bring them down. Studies had shown, he said, that high homocysteine levels increase the risk of heart attacks and strokes. In fact, they are a better indicator than high cholesterol. I started taking folic acid and it worked. So I've been taking it ever since. Now there is new information about its benefits. A study reported just last week in Total Health Breakthroughs showed that folic acid reduces blood pressure and improves blood flow to the legs. (Decreased blood flow occurs when the arteries become clogged with fatty deposits.) Test subjects were given 400 mcg per day. Improvements were seen in only 16 weeks. You can get folic acid from cow's liver, spinach, and black-eyed peas. But for maximum benefit, Dr. Sears recommends taking a high-quality natural supplement. In a recent essay, Bob Bly identified 12 "truths that govern the freelance writing profession today." I was not surprised to agree with all 12. When a master speaks -- and Bob is a master copywriter -- I pay attention. Three of them that can apply to almost any entrepreneurial activity: 1. When there is a lot of competition in a market, it becomes a buyer's market. That puts downward pressure on the prices you can charge. 2. But much of that competition is weak or mediocre. You can improve your chances of success by providing a better product or service. 3. The scarcer something is, the more you can charge for it. Therefore, another good strategy for making more money is to focus on subjects/products/services that most others avoid. If you'd like to see all 12 of Bob's "truths," go here. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "I love the new format." "I wanted to let you know I love the new format. I don't have to be online and click a link to continue reading the main article. Especially if you are traveling and don't have 24-hour connectivity, it is disappointing to download mail then find you can't read your favorite daily without going online again." Desi Powell
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Example (as used by Rich Schefren today): "When I made the decision to develop a business that would give me the autonomy to spend more time with my family and friends, I went with the one thing I knew I could 'hang my hat on' and pursue with a passion -- helping others do the same." --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- We want your feedback! Let us know your thoughts on today's issue. Email us at: AskETR@ETRFeedback.com | 
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